Beat Low Self-Esteem
Solution-Focused Approach to Solving Low Self Esteem
It’s Your Time To Turn Inward
Brief and effective treatment to cultivate self-worth & a realistic self-image
Low Self Esteem
Low self-esteem tells you lies – that you’re not good enough and there’s something wrong with you.
- Low self-esteem makes it difficult to trust your abilities, perform, find love, or simply feel content with who you are.
- You dismiss your inherent value, your strengths, and the wonderful aspects of who you are.
- Constantly reflecting and replaying your inadequacies, weaknesses, failings and past mistakes.
A crushed self-esteem dents so many possibilities in life.
Signs of Low self-esteem: Are some of these relatable to you?
- You say to yourself “I’m not good enough”, “I’m inadequate”, “I don’t deserve”.
- You see potential in everyone else, but struggle to recognise your own.
- You lack confidence and trust in yourself – a lot of self-doubt!
- You question your sense of belonging, your identity and who you are.
- You feel like a total fraud, and it’s only a matter of time before everyone else figures it out.
- The Imposter syndrome – the deep seeded concerns and thoughts you have for yourself; you’re worried that other people too will share those same thoughts.
- You neglect your own needs. You people please. To the point you don’t know how to say no, or set a boundary.
- A really strong inner critic, or harsh inner voice?
- You frequently compare yourself to others? Often not smart enough, attractive/pretty enough, or strong enough.
- Social situations are daunting. You’re second guessing yourself – what if I say the wrong thing? What if everyone thinks I’m boring?
- You avoid these social situations altogether, even though deep down, you really want to connect.
- You might self-deprecate and joke about yourself, but you call it “dark humour”.
Additionally, If you tend to lean towards perfectionism, over-achieving, and dichotomous (all or nothing) thinking, then you are also more prone to low self-esteem. These patterns push you to unrealistic standards. You feel you are never doing enough, or you could always be doing more. Low self-esteem is also very much linked to anxiety (particularly social/performance), stress and even in more severe situations, mild to chronic depression.
Bottom line, when low self-esteem and a lack of confidence hinders your ability to enjoy your life, it’s time to seek support. It’s time to act!
How do we overcome Low Self-Esteem?
There is a rise in people doing self-development, yet low self-esteem is also on the rise. Why? Because most approaches completely miss the mark. They treat low self-esteem as a bad attitude/negative thinking, not the deep rooted issue it really is. You can’t just put positive affirmations, or think your way out of it! The trouble is, low self-esteem runs on autopilot. it’s an unconscious process, with a series of steps that sufferers involuntarily do without consciously thinking about it. On top of the self-development, you have posts all over social media that state “you should love yourself more”, where people then think “if only I just loved myself more, then my self-esteem would be better”. That worthless, generic advice really grinds my gears, because it makes people feel stuck and even worse than before! No matter how many times loved ones or other people attempt with “you need to love yourself” or “Ooh but you are good enough”. Deep down, unconsciously, the person doesn’t believe them. They need to know how, the process, in order to overcome low self-esteem.
From our perspective, at The Inward Process, the goal is not to have higher self-esteem, or more confidence necessarily. Self-absorbed narcissists and sociopaths have higher self-esteem. But they lack ability and the skillsets to match their high confidence, and/or high value of themselves. The goal at The Inward Process is for you to have a more realistic assessment about yourself. This is what we view as “low self-esteem”. We want the individual to accept the good, the bad, the ugly. To recognise, that you are a working progress. Where you may not be where you want to be right now, but if you want to improve something, you can figure out the steps, the how, and then act on it. Then being able to assess yourself against external factors, against external feedback from credible sources. That are valid and appropriate. Where your confidence and how you see yourself matches your skills and abilities. That is now a realistic self-assessment, and that is the true outcome we strive for at The Inward Process. This is the outcome we seek for the individual.
With our tried, tested and proven methods that incorporates clinical hypnotherapy, we will guide you through not only tackling the auto-pilot process and developing a realistic self-assessment leading to more skillsets and how to improve confidence, we will give you full permission in the moment to be exactly who you are and where you currently sit. As we all a working progress.
What we offer
Personalised, strategic sessions, tailored to your circumstance: We recognise the broad scope of low self-esteem and how it is often comorbid with other processes like anxiety, stress and perfectionism for example. Our tried, tested, and proven strategic sessions will be tailored to your circumstances, and most importantly, empower you to take back control and live a more fulfilled life.
Build a more realistic self-assessment that leads to higher confidence: We will guide through the process on how to develop a more realistic view of yourself, where your confidence matches your abilities, skillsets and potential. And that your inherent sense of value is more than any action, thought or behaviour.
Shifting the inner critic: Learn how to challenge and shift the inner critic, that harsh inner voice through cutting edge approaches and specific mechanisms we teach. You’ll learn how to dial down and silence thoughts that just aren’t valid, useful, or in fact even true!
Foster a Working in Progress, Growth Mindset: Shift from a fixed, inadequate, not good enough mindset, to where you see yourself as a work in progress. Where you have limitless potential, to continuously improve yourself and grow over time.
Incorporate and even encourage, external feedback: Learn to incorporate external feedback from valid and appropriate sources, so that your low self-esteem perspectives are challenged, and you can view yourself in a more realistic light.
Action Oriented: At The Inward Process, we emphasise the importance of taking action, regardless of how “ready” you feel, so that you can dispel self-doubts and build true confidence through consistently following through.
Step Into Your New Life
At The Inward Process, we understand that low self-esteem is more than just feeling down about yourself, and it’s more than just self-love as the solution. We recognise that true self-esteem and confidence comes from unconscious competence, where your level of confidence matches your skillsets. If you are ready to learn life-long skills and strategic approaches that you will carry everywhere for the rest of your life and dramatically shift your sense of self, then book your free 20 minute discovery session below. This is your opportunity to tell me a bit about what’s going on, ask how The Inward Process can serve you, and for you to start taking back control.